There are some words that I think should be removed from the language.
They do more harm than good.
They create unrealistic expectations and attitudes toward life.
"Perfect" is one of the words.
Perfect causes so much angst and anxiety!
Many people claim to be perfectionists.
What this often means in reality is that they so fear not doing something "perfectly", without error, or not living up to their own or others impossible standards, that they fail to even begin.
I know a woman who has difficulty committing to write because she wants it to be perfect.
I know a woman who has difficulty committing to eat well because she wants to eat perfectly.
I know a woman who has difficulty committing to doing various projects because she wants them to be perfect.
I am here to tell these women, and you, and me, that there is NO such thing as perfect.
Perfect doesn't exist.
Perfect is something that human beings created in our minds. Some IDEA of what something "should" (another word I don't like) be.
To look perfect we all "should" be 5'9" and weigh 125 lbs, have blonde hair, blue eyes, creamy white skin, big boobs, tiny waist, round hips and butt, long, shapely legs and attractive feet.
To smell perfect we "should" all shower with scented bath soaps and rub our bodies with scented lotions and spritz our bodies with scented fragrance.
To be the perfect mother we "should" do...good Lord...everything for our child and the school and other parents and our husband and our house and our car and the neighborhood and the community...and ... and...
I do not believe in Perfect.
I believe that perfect is nothing more than another way in which women demean and destroy themselves.
I believe that prefect is a way that women hold themselves back and create barriers in their lives.
I do not believe in perfect.
I believe in balance. Giving your best effort. I believe in loving yourself. I believe in creating harmony within all areas of your life. I believe in saying no to protect your self, soul and sanity.
Perfect has no place in my life.
I don't believe in perfect.